Stands With A Fist: Women In Apologetics

By Robin Wilson

I loved the movie “Dances With Wolves”. The character played by Mary McDonnell “Stands with A Fist” was of course my favorite character. In the movie:

John Dunbar: How did you get your name? Stands With a Fist: When I came to live on the prairie, I worked every day… very hard… there was a woman who didn’t like me. She called me bad names… sometimes she beat me. One day she was calling me these bad names, her face in my face, and I hit her. I was not very big, but she fell down. She fell hard and didn’t move. I stood over her with my fist and asked if any other woman wanted to call me bad names… No one bothered me after that day.

Sometimes you need to stand up for yourself and your beliefs. In today’s world this can be very hard for anyone. Some women often  have a much harder time doing this than men do. Women are judged on a somewhat different scale than men. We see this clearly in politics. While strong men are applauded , strong women are labeled as nags and the “B” word. More attention is paid to how we look, what we wear than the substance of our character.  This is also true in Christian Apologetics. There are many male Apologists but very few females.  Why is this? I have a few ideas:

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  • Many women are peacemakers by nature. Any Mom with more than one child knows we spend a lot of time keeping the peace. We don’t “like” getting things “started”.
  • Some churches abuse 1 Corinthians 14:34 meant to bring order in a worship services and never meant to keep women from defending the faith.
  • Some women lack confidence in their Bible knowledge, teaching and debate skills.
  • Many women take disagreements as rejection and avoid them. 
  • Often women don’t want the label of being overbearing
  • Women are seldom encouraged to go into apologetics.

These are just a few reasons, I am sure there are many others. Women can learn a few things from our male counterparts. Men don’t seem to take debating personal. They do not often get hurt or dejected or swayed by people that disagree with them. Men tend to debate from logic not emotion. Men often use less words and keep it simple, long explanations tend to lose people fast. Now this doesn’t ring true always but mostly. While working over the years with men and women, interesting debates and discussions were common. After the discussion I found that the women that disagreed with me were often upset and quiet while the men were fine. I grew up with a brother and a close relationship with my father. My Dad taught me to love God,  be strong, self sufficient, independent, take up for myself,  persevere, achieve whatever I dreamed I could be and to respect myself. My brother taught me to joke around, don’t take life too seriously, to keep fighting until one of us yells uncle, and that I will not always win the battle but at least I tried.

Apologetics is neither male or female. It is just a willing heart to defend the faith we love…


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