The Most Troubling Thing About Same-Sex Marriage

by Michael Sherrard

I don’t know how a society that wants to put the emotional fulfillment of adults ahead of the well being of its children can survive. And that is what troubles me most about Same-Sex Marriage; children are the afterthought.

The central issue is being neglected by our culture in the SSM debate. Most of the discussion, nearly all of it in the media, is on the inequality and discrimination of not allowing gay couples to marry. But who should be allowed to marry is step two isn’t it? Progressing to “who can marry?” comes only after we know what marriage is and what marriage is for.

There are two views about marriage today. The traditional view of marriage, the view that nearly every civilization has held up until now, says that marriage is between one man and one women because that is the union that is able to procreate and is best suited to raise healthy children and thereby provide a solid foundation for healthy civilizations. This view is not based on the Bible’s teaching; it is not a religious view of marriage, but the bible does affirm this view.

Research and our common experience show the goodness that comes from parents raising their biological children together in a low conflict marriage. Men and women each bring something unique and valuable to parenting. They are each indispensable. And together in the same household, they can become a powerful force for the good of their children and thereby society.

This view of marriage is really quite simple. Healthy families build a healthy world. And families are most healthy when children are lovingly raised by their biological moms and dads.

The revisionists view of marriage says that marriage is only about the emotional well-being of adults. It says that the foundation of marriage is love.  Love is what is important. It is what draws you into marriage and out of it.

But should the foundation of something so important be an unstable and powerful emotion?


The Most Troubling Thing About Same-Sex Marriage — Michael C Sherrard