Gentleness and Respect in Debate and Discussion

by Luke Nix

As a defender of the Christian worldview, I get involved in many discussions with skeptics. These discussions often not only touch on the existence of God, but on the problem of evil, the nature of man, and ethics, which all overlap into politics during certain years. As many have experienced first hand, these discussions often get heated. There is a temptation that is difficult to avoid in these situations, but it must be resisted.

The Temptation
The temptation to become defensive in our attitude (especially when the other person already is) is not easy to avoid. Sometimes we permit ourselves some freedom in our rhetorical force combined with our aggressive posture, and before we know it, those freedoms have produced sarcasm, disrespect, belligerence, or dismissiveness. Many times justified as “passion.”

While there is nothing wrong about being passionate about the truth and justifying its belief, we must always be careful that we articulate our points “with gentleness and respect.” Christians are urged in scripture to do so (1 Peter 3:15b). But this is not merely an arbitrary command, it has real-world negative effects. Christian philosopher Ravi Zacharias explains this concisely:

“Truth that is not undergirded by love makes the possess or the truth obnoxious, and the dogma itself becomes repulsive.”

There are two parties negatively affected by the uncontrolled rhetoric and posture: the defender and the skeptic. The defender is demonstrating the evidences that justify belief in Jesus Christ, yet he does so in a very unloving and unchrist-like way. This creates a contradiction in the defender’s life: his actions do not seem to match what he professes. This walking contradiction causes the defender to lose credibility…


Faithful Thinkers: Gentleness and Respect in Debate and Discussion