Playground Apologetics Tactics Question 1: What do you mean by that?

by Hillary Short

In my previous post, I discussed what Playground Apologetics was. Today, we are going to get in the nitty-gritty of how to go about having conversations with other moms, no matter where God has placed you! The main questions we are utilizing are from Greg Koukl’s book Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions.

In his book, Koukl outlines a number of questions and methods that you can use that will help facilitate conversations, without you coming off looking like a know-it-all. (Because honestly, who wants to talk with a know-it-all? Nobody, that’s who.)

The three questions/methods he emphasizes are:

  1. “What do you mean by that?”
  2. “How did you arrive at that conclusion?”
  3. Using Columbo to Lead the Way

What Do You Mean By That?

Today we’ll look at the first question, “What do you mean by that?”  This question serves to gather more facts from the scene.  For example, is your definition of “skeptic” the same as the other person’s? Defining terms is an important first step. If you don’t, you could discover only after lengthy discussion that you were talking past each other the whole time.

It’s also a great way to encourage reflection by the other party.  Some people employ terms because they’ve heard them, but haven’t really stopped to examine what they might truly mean.  Lastly, this question takes advantage of an open door by putting you in the “driver’s seat” of the conversation, as Koukl says.  It’s what can transform small talk into influential discussion…


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