How Not to Win Arguments and Lose People

by Silverio Gonzalez

I know there are plenty of books on apologetics and worldview that help Christians defend their faith. But we cant learn these answers just to win arguments. That is the way everybody else in the world talks about religion. Christianity has never made converts primarily by winning arguments but rather by capturing hearts.—Jared C. Wilson Unparalleled: How Christianity’s Uniqueness Makes It Compelling, 18

In times where the culture seems to oppose Christianity, our job as Christians is to show why Christianity is not only true and good but also beautiful and attractive. To win arguments is one thing, but to show the attraction of the gospel message is quite another. In fact, with a little bit of study and a touch of stubbornness, you could “win” most arguments. But at the end of the day, is that all we really want?

There have been many classic Christian writers from Augustine to C. S. Lewis who, for all their concern with Christianity’s reasonableness, sought to do more than win arguments. Their goal was always to attract people to Christianity, even as they demonstrated that Christianity was reasonable to believe. Jared C. Wilson takes up this same challenge. He wants to show that Christianity is good and beautiful.

In his book, Unparalleled: How Christianity’s Uniqueness Makes It Compelling, Wilson seeks to show that Christianity—at the very point where it is most unique—is actually where it is most compelling. What makes Christianity unique at its heart is the gospel of Jesus Christ. Targeting the indifference of those who claim to be “spiritual but not religious,” Wilson argues that Christianity is often assumed to be…


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